Keeping your Marriage Alive with Healthy Friendship

“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche

Is your marriage a happy one? If it is, you are lucky and blessed. Friendship in marriage is synonymous with companionship, closeness, comradeship and alliance. Without friendship, it is impossible for a husband and wife to build a happy married life. Most importantly, when a friendship is built before marriage and continued throughout, the result is very rewarding and it will help save your marriage through the hard times.

Friendship is the key to a joyful and successful relationship, especially in marriage. Just imagine having a partner who is not a friend, a supporter, a helper and an ally. Your married life would be a total mess or chaotic. When this happens, doubt and confusion creeps in. You become bitter towards your partner. You feel empty, lonely and rejected.

When faced with marital woes, you and your spouse must make an effort to save your marriage instead of taking the issues aside. I believe that the main purpose of marriage is for companionship and procreation. We choose marriage because we don’t want to be alone in life. In my opinion, friendship is the key to a successful and healthy marriage.

Want to have a healthy and happy married life? Consider these tips:

Open communication is vital in every relationship. When conflict arises, it is always best to talk to your partner instead of initiating a “silent war”. Every misunderstanding is often solved through openness and communication and successful relationship is built with trust, unconditional love, transparency, and respect.

Spending quality time with your spouse strengthens the bond of your relationship.  Take a moment out of your busy schedule by having dinner together in a restaurant, watching a movie, or even going to the park. This should be the best time to talk about issues or concerns. When you’re at home, the kids always eat up most of your time and you could hardly have a heart-to-heart talk with each other. Make an effort to listen to each other’s opinions. It is of utmost importance to empathize with your spouse and let him/her feel appreciated and accepted. As a friend, always be there when he/she needs you the most. Always remember that handling hardships together will build intimacy.

Find time to laugh even in small things. Laughter is the best medicine and this really works to ease the tension and relieve the stress. Relive those moments when you were still dating as if you’re the only people living on the planet. In other words, enjoy being with each other and always put his/her interests ahead of your own.

Freely express your love for each other. Give gifts and celebrate special occasions. Reaffirm your love and commitment from time to time. Have a heartfelt desire for the relationship to grow.

A friend you can trust is a priceless treasure. As most friendship is built upon honesty and trust, marriage should also be founded in the same way. It should be the basic foundation on which relationship is built. As a friend to your spouse, never take him/her for granted. Be the best friend you can be and stay committed.

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