4 Steps to a Good and Effective Communication:
A successful married couple does not share a 100-year old secret about true love and successful relationship. Most often, they just share a mixture of commitment, lots of consideration and a set of good and improve communication skills. How you talk over things will give a hint on how lasting you could stick in your married life through thick and thin.
You both have to be able to listen to what the other person is sharing, not just with your ears but by your heart. Make sure to never prematurely interrupt but always give time and consideration.
Set Clear Expectations:
Men are not born with crystal balls for them to check when they feel they need to guess our feelings over things. Though not a direct message to women, the female flock is the one who tends to shove their partner’s ego simply because they feel they are being taken for granted.
If you expect your partner to share breakfast with you every morning, tell it directly to his face. Do you want him to fetch you when you decided to have an unplanned date, communicate your expectation without vagueness and dramas. Express yourself in accordance to what you deem is right and appropriate for couples. Make sure to share your opinions and desires, but never sound so demanding and high maintenance.
Our partner does seek for our personal advices on any issues or probably needs our attention for some mishaps. Situations like this should definitely aid the relationship to grow. However, if the message and criticism is not being communicated constructively, it could lead to arguments and unwanted misunderstanding.
Therefore, make sure to focus on criticizing the action and not the person. Take note to appreciate before you criticize, make sure you never the miss the good points if there are any. Good communication should start by using words that do not sound accusing or attacking the other person. Use the word “I” in speaking instead of “You” like “I feel like you do not understand me” instead of “You are so insensitive”. Speak with humility and understanding plus never expect an overnight change of your other half. Also, as a couple, you must learn how to overcome financial issues in your marriage because that is one of main reason for marital fights.
Activate the Listening Ears:
Nothing feels special when you know you got someone’s 100% attention. When your spouse is talking, you have to make sure that you are not in the middle of any tasks, but as much as possible, you have to look at her in the eyes and listen intently. No, that should not be the case all the time, but there must be an intimate time for good words and communication between the two of you.
You both have to be able to listen to what the other person is sharing, not just with your ears but by your heart. Make sure to never prematurely interrupt but always give time and consideration. A sign of an improve communication between couple is when both of you takes time to listen attentively.
Be more Self-aware:
Being fully aware of the things that you say and do allows you to protect yourself from hurting or neglecting your spouse’ needs.