Are you a Good Listener?

If we don’t adjust how we communicate today, we will simply not be effective in helping them become a better person, helping them to take their next step and experience life change.

Active listening requires your conscious effort to listen not just with the uttered words  from a person, but you are more willing to understand the message being shared completely. It’s more about being there, lending your ears and giving your undivided attention.

In today’s culture, there are more things fighting for our attention than ever before. Everywhere we go, we are flooded with advertisements, messages, images, videos and agenda that are all competing for the valuable commodity of our sole attention. Because of these amazing things we have experienced and saw, we definitely want to talk and share everything with others that we give a little value to developing our listening skill anymore. That is why communications get barred because of one thing—selfishness.

In life, broken relationships and communication lapses are really inevitable, especially in the family. These and other heartbreaking occurrences may hinder our growth and may probably be the reason why we cannot go on with our daily lives. Working is difficult, simple mistakes by the people around us become annoying, looking at our hair not properly fixed becomes frustrating, food seems tasteless and the list goes on. Everything just seems so infuriating.  Then we realize, something is deeply wrong.

With problems like these, something or someone has to change, and it’s not going to be the people around us. Often, we feel like the people to blame are the people who don’t listen to us. But no, it should be the other way around. WE HAVE TO CHANGE FIRST. Why? Because a million dollar thing is at stake—RELATIONSHIP. If we don’t adjust how we communicate today, we will simply not be effective in helping them become a better person, helping them to take their next step and experience life change. In a family, learning how to use your active listening skills in any conflicts can help minimize, if not eliminate family issues, just like sibling rivalry. Usually, conflicts between siblings happened when everyone just wanted to share their sentiments, but nobody wants to listen. Take time to settle things calmly, hearing all sides of the story.

In every family relationship, it is very important to understand that our communication must not begin with information; it must start with an inspiration because apparently, what we all crave is authenticity. Sometimes, when we focus solely on the excellence and perfection of our message, we lose the heart of it. We have to be real, vulnerable, and authentic in our communications. It’ll set us apart from 99% of the other messages our audience experiences each day.

As what Theodore Roosevelt said: “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care”. So be a good listener today and your family will love you till eternity.

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